Died of cancer: ‘Living with cancer puts a lot of pressure on your ability to come to terms with your life’

Before my mum died, when I was 13, I spent a night alone in my bedroom to think about what would happen when she died. One of the things I recalled was how she…

Died of cancer: 'Living with cancer puts a lot of pressure on your ability to come to terms with your life'

Before my mum died, when I was 13, I spent a night alone in my bedroom to think about what would happen when she died. One of the things I recalled was how she got sick because she walked around to try to move into the right room in the house. This led to blood clots, which caused her leg to swell up so she could no longer walk. Instead, she sat still in bed with a blood pressure machine. It gave her depression, which was the trigger for her body to give way.

When she passed away, I was left to pick up the pieces of my mum’s life. So I am not prepared to say how I beat cancer. I was diagnosed with cancer when I was 24 but have now been told I only had a two per cent chance of survival. Now I want to raise awareness of the need for early diagnosis. I also believe that, if anything, my situation shows that you need more than one person looking after you and that you need to involve your family and friends. When I was ill, I was mainly cared for by two of my best friends, a female family member and my mum.

Trying to live with cancer puts a lot of pressure on your ability to come to terms with your life. It makes you contemplate suicide, but if it happened at a younger age, I might be able to look back and laugh at it now. Cancer has changed my life, but I just want to inspire people. I am living proof of the power of being a positive thinker and, in my own words, to “believe in myself and never give up”.

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